Make Love Not Porn

Pornography has been around for centuries, serving as a means of sexual visual arousal for the individual. This has taken on different forms, each form being relevant to each era, although history does repeat itself in different ways adapting to people's preferences. Although the pornography industry is keeping a lot of people employed, and satisfied, it is also polluting the minds of both females and males disturbing the natural flow of sex.

Access to pornography in the past was much more limited, especially for under-aged individuals. It was always something that would grab your attention when visiting a local shop where looking at a front cover alone was quite stimulating, thus helping you to develop a porndar (pornography radar). If sex was more openly discussed with children it wouldn't be seen as a taboo by certain cultures and porn would carry less value.

With everyone having internet in their homes, accessing porn is uncomplicated. Children are exposed to pornography from a young age, and this is forming and shaping their views on what sex is all about. Sex - the most natural action for both animals and humans alike - is misrepresented, as porn has managed to create false expectations on what women want and what men should do. It has been proven that some couples' sex life becomes more interesting because of porn, and by all means if watching some porn can save your relationship then that is fine. However the consistent exposure to porn on a regular basis causes many to move away from making love to making porn. Some people do not even experience making love at all! Whatever rocks your boat of course!

Due to porn a lot of people expect to get what they have seen, but a lot of people do not get what they have seen and may end up with a little disappointment. We often hear the terms “she or he won't let me”, and they might even take it personal and even question the love the other person has for them. Hello, what has not doing anal got to do with love? Come on, seriously?

Is it too late to change this mentality, now that it has already become a normal unnatural part of sex? The best approach to this would be to educate children about sex. Do not be embarrassed, you must be very open about it, because they need to understand that it is natural. Talk to them about pornography and its purpose so that they are aware of the difference between porn and reality. Men watch probably more porn than women, and that is a harsh reality, so usually it is the men who are imposing what to do and that again comes from porn, because the majority of the directors of porn are male, so they think as males do, creating what the men expect to see. If there were more female directors of pornography would the roles be reversed? Perhaps!

I came across a very interesting presentation by Cindy Gallop, providing a raw and hard-hitting insight into the reality of porn, explaining how hardcore pornography has distorted young people's perceptions of sex. Cindy Gallop has also launched a website called www.makelovenotporn.com Take a few minutes to watch the video below:

Watching porn is like cheating, it’s like you are learning to run before you walk. Indulging yourself in some porn makes you use your mind and not your heart when having sex. Let your emotions dictate your actions not a Rocco Siffredi or a Nina Hartley.